I think the online dating thing has hindered me in my finding someone the old fashioned way. Usually when you find someone online that catches your eye there is a page of information on them. Age, location, music interests, favorite movies, religious beliefs, what kind of person they are looking for, smoker, drinker, etc. When you meet someone the old fashioned way, you have to ask questions to get that kind of information, they don't hand you a resume. Meeting someone the old fashioned way it may take a few dates before the person you are dating drops a major deal breaker bomb, where as you may find out the same information just by looking at a profile for less than a minute.
So when you do find someone that catches your eye out in the real world, what do you do? Flirt immediately? Try to be friends first? Interrogate them to get as much information as possible to decide if they are worth your time? Not everyone who is single is looking, so if you do find someone who catches your eye how do you find out if they're looking or if they're a "it'll happen when it happens" type? Can a "it'll happen when it happens" type be changed? One of the first people to catch my eye during this experiment is one of these types. He's a coworker, but we're on different schedules. It's rather frustrating knowing that he's not really interested in anything, possibly even me. It's hard to get to know someone in such little time. He's a private type when asked questions about himself, not one to jump into a conversation when other coworkers talk about their weekend plans. Online dating has not prepared me for this type of situation. Any advice is welcome as is any venting about dating in general.
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